What Do Guys Think After All That Flirting?
I briefly considered writing a “practical joke” post, but then it occurred to me that practical jokes just aren’t all that practical. I’m not into that. Instead, we’ve got an Interesting sort of a “general” question. When a guy and a girl have a good, old-fashioned flirtathon, what happens in the guy’s brain when he goes home? Besides the requisite naughtiness, of which we’re all guilty, of course. (Although, I have to admit that I never really feel all that guilty about it.)
At the end of this, I’ll throw it out to the dudes who read this site. Oh that’s right. I know you’re out there. Lend a hand, won’tcha?
This one has got to be super easy.
Girl meets guy, “he makes the first move” i.e. Wow, your cute.
Girl reciprocates w/wow you look great too, let’s talk.
Guy starts using pet names quick, sweetie, etc… Girl loves every minute of the pet name calling, but plays her hand close, doesn’t want to get burned.
A long talk ensues, he’s very respectful of her boundaries, and is generally engaging.
They exchange, thank you’s for the conversation and big smiles.
Girl goes to bed reeling from the “WOW” factor, wakes up the next morning reviewing the finer points of one of the best conversations, stays happy all day.
Now, we know what the girl did, what did the guy do? Please shed light on this what was he thinking.
Sex, definitely, because within a second of seeing his face, the girl had his clothes off, making him a happy man.*how great that would be* Yes, even women are guilty of mental sex right away.
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But after their mental tango what was he thinking?You will rock my world if you can read this one!!!
Cassidy
Dear Cassidy,
Well, as you must know, obviously it depends on what he thinks about you. But for the purposes of this discussion, let’s assume that he feels the same stuff that you did — he likes you, he had a GREAT time flirting with you, and he can’t wait for a chance to go for some more. What then?
WOULD IT SURPRISE YOU TO KNOW…
…that it’s probably not so different from what happened for you? He’s doing all the stuff that you mention. Going through the “greatest hits” moments of your flirtation, cringing at the dopey things he might have said and hoping that you’re not thinking about them, imagining other conversations that you MIGHT have…the works.
And I have to say that if I really like the woman, I actually don’t spend as much time fantasizing about sex as I do about conversation, the way she looked at me, the way her eyes lit up when she smiled in that way that made my stomach relocate to my shoes. I guess it makes sense since all of that stuff is far more rare than just sexual attraction by itself, which, let’s face it…that’s pretty much everywhere, all day long. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great. It’s just not, you know, noteworthy.
WHAT HE’S NOT LIKELY TO DO
One area in which a man’s behavior is going to differ from some women’s is this: if he really likes you? Probably won’t tell his friends too much about you. If all he wants to do is to, say, hump? That’s when his moron friends (and I say that with love) might hear about you.
Why wouldn’t we tell our idiot friends about meeting someone really fun, exciting, and potentially significant?
- It’s just not very manly, is it? Picture Jack Bauer gabbing with all the other torturers and face-punchers down at CTU, and gushing about some woman he just met, and how she might be The One. Doesn’t work. I’m not saying that all men think they’re Jack Bauer REALLY, but we’re aware that we don’t have a lot of role models for this kind of talk.
- If we like you, we don’t want our idiot friends thinking about you. Ever. We know that when they think about you, they’ll be picturing having sex with you. We do it, why wouldn’t they? And if I am forced to NOTICE that my friend is picturing having sex with you, I then have to murder him. And murder is bad. (Again, I know he’s thinking about her. I just don’t want to have to KNOW that he’s thinking about her.)
That’s about it, Cassidy. I hope that’s not too-too vague. I mean, it’s really just not so different from you. If he likes you, he’s going to run around his apartment talking to himself just like you do.
Oh boys! Anybody care to share what they do after they’ve had a solid flirtola?If you liked that, you might also like…