Take Me Home For The Holidays
As holiday season has descended upon us, one very real reality is about to hit a large number of people like a pile of bricks.
They are not where they think they are in their relationship. Meek Mill teaches us that there are levels to this sh*t and relationships are no different. The holidays are one hell of a litmus test.
You know how everybody stands there with bated breath the first time you’re out with the new person you’re dating and come across some friends and everybody waits to hear how the new boo is introduced? Is it, “this is my friend, Danielle…” or is it “…this is my girlfriend, Danielle”? That same principle happens during the holiday except it gets magnified because now we’re talking family. Family is the ultimate relationship litmus test.
Until you meet an important person in the family (mama, daddy, sisters) and not just the cousin that he or she is always hanging out with, you’re not really in there. Yeah, you’re dating, but you’re just that: dating.
So the holidays roll around and then bong bong the pressure cooker shows up. Will you or won’t you be spending any holidays together…with family. Has he asked you to come spend thanksgiving with his family? Has she even brought it up? Have they not even mentioned the fact that holidays are around the corner.
If you’re dating somebody who never even mentions the holidays, not even to say, “hey Thanksgiving is on Thursday. I love eating with my family,” there’s a good chance that you are not as far along in your relationship as you may want to be. Of course, this isn’t really a big deal if you just met two weeks ago. Or even a month ago, really. But if you’ve been together for six months and you all openly refer to one another as being an item then the holidays roll around and nobody is going home with the other for even a day….well…
Look, its not the end of the world either. Trust me. It sucks, but sometimes the holidays are difficult for all of us. You know you like the person that you’re dating but maybe you aren’t sure if you’ve made it to “holiday time” together. And who wants to have that conversation? Somebody’s feelings will undoubtedly get hurt if you mention that at all. So even without being on purpose, the holidays represent a sort of relationship heat check that might unfortunately force conversations that nobody wants to have.
But if you end up going home for the holidays with your boo…well, it looks like you might be in there!
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